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The Surprising Truth about Grief with Time

For those who are grieving and those who are loving and supporting those who are grieving—two years and beyond is significant.

I assure you, there is so much more to the story of grief than the hard loss that—for the first year—feels like it will consume and paralyze you forever. I am living it.

When my mom died, it became obvious to me that I had a shallow understanding of the grief that followed, and I wrote about that in “The Surprising Truth about Loving Deeply and Losing.” Now, It’s been over two years since I watched my mom take her last breath, and I want to share more about what I am learning with time. 

The grief is still there, but it’s different now. 

And I believe there is power in talking about what grief reveals, even with the passing of time, because it lends us perspective in the moments we don’t have any on our own.

Loving Deeply and Losing

***This post was also featured on the Huffington Post as part of Common Grief, a Healthy Living editorial initiative. 

Until I actually lost my mom to cancer, I had a really shallow understanding of grief. 

Although I experienced loss and sympathized with others before— meaning, I mourned those who have died, attended funerals, sent notes, brought food, cried, prayed, and held hands— I had absolutely no idea what it really meant to grieve.  I thought I did.  But as it turns out, I didn’t.

Cupcakes

It was a much needed hang-out Saturday in our house. And looking back on this day, it is so obvious how important un-busy time is for families like mine. So I want to reflect on what none of us can see in the momentum of our busy, good intentions as parents and people. And I hope you’ll walk away  encouraged by five good reasons to take a break from regular busy with your kids.